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It seems my wife is having trouble getting through to me. She keeps telling me I don’t listen to her. When we argue I usually interrupt what she is saying when I think I understand her point. She interprets this as me being rude and not hearing here out. She thinks I need patience to wait for the other person to finish what they’re saying first before responding back. Yeah right.

So let me get this straight: I’m gonna wait for her to finish making her completely irrelevant point which in no way helps our argument. Allow me to give an example.

“But every time you go out with your friends you come home late at night and do nothing the next day.” Tomoko explains.

I may reply, “So should I not go out with my friends?”

“You spend too much money. Last month you spent 30,000 yen going out with your friends when we didn’t even have enough money to buy rice. I had to go down and pick rice from a field in the next town so we could have rice with our sardines. It’s almost like you don’t care if we live or die. I don’t know if I can live with a person like you. You don’t care about us.”

How long should I wait? Ahhhhh….this is where the hearing comes in and a little patience. I’m getting it. IIIII’m getting it. A few more years and I’ll have all of this shtuff figured out.



Comments:
13 Comments posted on "Women - Hearing vs Listening"
The Warrior on September 29th, 2007 at 8:48 am

Mike,

When you figure women out, can you let the rest of us know the secret?


Zen on September 29th, 2007 at 11:53 am

Yes Please do that. Wait I thought you had the mind reading, superpower!!!

Hey, you dog, you made Tomoko-sam go pick rice!?!?! Shame shame shame.


Mike on September 29th, 2007 at 9:54 pm

I don’t tell her to pick rice. She does it on her own so she can use it against me when we argue. No seriously, she does stuff with the Buddhist group like cleaning the train station toilets at 5:00AM on a Saturday morning. I think she uses that against me.

She says the point of doing it so early is so know one knows. It makes you feel like you are doing something good without feeling you have to tell someone you’re doing it. However, she let’s me know right when she gets home.


Freakshow on September 29th, 2007 at 11:43 pm

When’s the last time we went out for a drink? You didn’t accompany me the last three times I went to Licky & Tomatoes. I’d say that shows you really have been behaving. By the way, I’m very happy you’re back at the music again. We’ll have to figure out when we can get together and jam.


Mike on September 30th, 2007 at 3:45 pm

Going out. That sounds fun. I just went to the library and rented a video. Now I’m about to play Civilization and drink some beer. Then dinner and a movie. My Sundays. Add some music to the mix and I’ve got a new world. Although nothing really beats the happy head dildo at Licky’s.


Mike on September 30th, 2007 at 3:46 pm

PS: Maybe we can all jam on ejamming.com.


Freakshow on October 2nd, 2007 at 4:03 am

Or maybe you could just get off your old fart ass and join us a Licky’s.


Zen on October 3rd, 2007 at 1:51 am

hehehahaha

ignore him Mikee, I’m sure Tomoko-san likes having you home.

ejamming?


Zen on October 3rd, 2007 at 1:54 am

Oh, sweet,let’s do it… if Freak can haul his drunk arse off the bar stool at Licky’s :P

can you podcast it after..?


many on December 8th, 2007 at 3:40 pm

well! Mike, reading your stiries i would also like to share mine
I have been married to my wife for 5 yrs and from the first day I met her I tried to figure out how she thought but couldn’t until I came to Japan. I had just left my Native country and was staying with my wife’s parents for couple of months to start a new life. Below are the conversation parts
At dinner my parents-in-laws were watching Japanese channel and talking while I was reading National Geographic magazine.

Wife: don’t read the magazine while having dinner
Me: why?
Wife: it’s rude
Me: well I don’t understand anything going on
Wife: still you have to act like you are interested in the conversation
Me: Ok do I have to nod too?
Wife: don’t worry about it they know you don’t understand Japanese…….

After a while my father- in-law pointed out something to my wife
Wife: you should not sit like that
Me: like what?
Wife: like that the leg should not be seen from above the table
Me: why
Wife: why do you always ask stupid question sit like Japanese or sit in an Indian style crossing your legs
Me: Come on one my leg is numb so I just raised my knees.
Wife: It is not accepted
Me: So am I making a fool of myself doing any other thing wrong
Wife: Don’t worry they don’t mind because you are new here ……………..

More to come in future


Mike on December 8th, 2007 at 10:27 pm

Ohhhhh Many. This is bEautiful. You need to post more of these as a contributor here on GinJ. Let me know if you’d like me to change your status. These are so great. We allll need to here them. Great stuff. Nice to meet you.


Zen on December 30th, 2007 at 5:25 am

Hahaha sweet , I missed this!


The Warrior on January 10th, 2008 at 3:14 pm

Many, I think we all have had similar conversations with Japanese ladies and their families. Good story.


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