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I woke up this morning, gave Tomoko a BIG hug, at which point Kai jumped out of bed and joined in. We hadn’t fought or anything, I just wanted to start talking again. I HATE not communicating. It’s the biggest trouble with marriages today. I think it’s telling the other person what you’re not happy about and then listening to the other person’s perspective. Then both people have to agree that neither is right and that there needs to be some compromise. If both sides agree to disagree and it’s in the best interest of the family to come to a conclusion which benefits both sides, albeit less than expected, then there is a chance everything will work out. Unfortunately, here in Japan, most are not leaders and a majority are followers with a say in what happens to the group. Where there is a group made up of two, it means one person’s say weighs in at a whopping 50% which translates, in woman vs. man language, to 99%. Western men’s confidence in solving matters quickly and logically have no place in Japan. Things take time. I’m learning how to watch plants grow. You must be logged in to post a comment. |
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Anki - Studying Japanese - Motivation:
What's goin' on....:
16 things it takes most of us 50 years to learn:
Is it worth it to go to Japan?:
Podcast Episode #87:
Podcast Episode #86:
Staying focused in Japan:
I'm my wife's guarantor:
Podcast Episode #85: